We frequently write about topics that directly concern parents who are either weathering a divorce or who have recently navigated the divorce process. However, it is also important to speak directly to kids and teens of parents who are divorcing or divorced as well. Understandably, most public information about the divorce process is geared towards the adults who have opted to undergo this legal transition. Yet, it is vitally important that everyone who is affected by divorce is allowed access to age-appropriate resources that they can relate to.
Kids and teens, if you have questions about your parents’ divorce process, they may allow you to ask their attorney if they don’t know the answer themselves. At times, your parents may not have the answers you are looking for. While this can be truly frustrating, it is important to remember that your parents are human and that they are almost certainly trying to do the best they can with the situations they are faced with.
Just like you, your parents ultimately want to be happy and they likely want to be healthy too. Working towards the goals of happiness and health are not always easy and your parents will likely misstep, stumble and even fall down along their way.
Although it may be difficult, the best things you can do for your own health and happiness involve communication. If you speak to your parents and other trusted adults about your goals and your concerns, you will place yourself in a better position to have your needs, wants, goals and concerns respected. Your parents may not understand what you are saying right away, but they certainly will not understand what you need if you don’t communicate with them. They are human too and (for better and for worse) humans cannot read minds.
Source: The Huffington Post, “What Kids With Divorced Parents Need To Remember,” Brittany Wong, May 8, 2015
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